I uninvited my daughter for Christmas after she cheated with her SISTER’S husband – but it’s divided people
CHRISTMAS always brings some form of family drama but one woman was left in a tough position when it came to her invites.
The mum-of-four explained why she had to choose between her two daughters when celebrating the festive season.
In a Reddit post, one unnamed user shared her dilemma in handeling her adult children.
“I have always been close with my daughter S, while P has always liked to have her own space,” she revealed.
The woman went on to describe bother her daughters as “beautiful talented young women that I thought I couldn’t be more proud of.”
She explained that scheduling issues resulted in them celebrating Christmas during the first week of December.
However, as the Reddit user set about arranging the festivities, her daughter threw a spanner in the works.
“When I phoned P yesterday to clarify a few things she mentioned that she and her husband would not be coming,” she wrote.
“She said that they had separated for now as he had cheated.”
The mum tried to persuade her daughter to spend time with her family.
However, the younger woman explained that her husband’s betrayal was even worse than she originally let on.
“Eventually she told me he had an affair with [her sister] and they had been seeing each other for the past two years,” the Redditor said.
“I felt sick. For the past six months in our talks, S has alluded that she had been seeing someone and was typically girl-in-love.”
After learning about her daughter’s actions, the mum made it clear what side she was on.
“I uninvited S to the Christmas gathering and blocked her,” the poster revealed.
“I don’t know if I’m able to deal with her before Christmas but this is family time and family can’t hurt each other like that.”
The concerned mum said she was “at a loss” for how to resolve the situation.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
She explained that her daughter P was attending the celebration while S told her that it was “none of my business.”
The younger woman added that “as her mother, I can’t block her and remove her from the family.”
While some family members advised the matriarch not to get involved, she pointed out that her daughter P needs her.
She went on to say that S has forfeited her right to familial support right now.
The Redditor explained that her husband was the one “liaising” with S but that he agrees with her take on things.
She added that even her son-in-law’s own mother has taken P’s side, even phoning to sympathize with her.
However, the poster’s sister distanced herself from the party due to her niece’s rescinded invitation.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“Sleeping with her sister’s husband is a really good reason to uninvite your daughter,” wrote one reader.
“This is a case where one has so massively wronged the other that staying neutral or ‘not taking sides’ is taking a side.”
“You have four kids for the rest of your life no matter what,” pointed out another person.
“S is your child and she did something wrong but you only talked to P and then immediately blocked your child.
“I’m not saying she should be invited to Christmas this year because your other daughter deserves to be around family and needs it more but as a mother you should not disown your own child over this.
“You definitely need to talk to her and help her realize how wrong what she did is and why the rest of the family isn’t on her side even if it seems like something you shouldn’t have to say.”
“S was the one who chose to sleep with her sister’s husband,” commented a third Reddit user.
“P deserves to be around family and get plenty of support this year as she was betrayed by both her sister and her husband.”