Men say they’d never date me over my list of relationship rules – splitting bills are laughable & I have ‘blue’ jobs
WE all have our own relationship dealbreakers, but one TikToker has taken it to the next level by sharing her firm – and unapologetic – rules for how she approaches being a girlfriend.
Known online as Bia Baby, she doesn’t hold back when it comes to outlining her expectations, and the internet can’t stop talking about it.
From strict boundaries on financial contributions to her take on traditional gender roles, Bia’s video has racked up views and sparked conversations everywhere.
In her video, Bia starts with: “Number one, and this is absolutely at the top – I don’t do 50-50.”
She continues: “Going 50-50 in a relationship? That’s not in my vocabulary. A man is a provider – so, provide, darling.
“I don’t mind treating my man now and then, but splitting bills? No, thanks. If you’re into that, maybe go find someone else who is.”
Her second rule? Bins are “blue jobs.”
“Taking out the trash is a man’s job,” she explains.
“If you don’t know what blue and pink jobs are, here’s the breakdown: blue jobs are for men, pink jobs are for women. The bin? That’s blue. And trust me, it’ll sit there until you take it out.”
Bia also admits she’s not one for faking friendships with her partner’s pals: “If I don’t like them, they’ll know. I’m not pretending for anyone’s sake.”
When it comes to finances, she has a firm stance: “No joint bank accounts. Ever. I’ll happily keep my money separate, thank you very much.
“What’s mine is mine – and what’s yours… might also be mine,” she jokes.
“Maybe a joint savings account for big goals, but that’s where I draw the line. I’m not here for daily alerts about my Starbucks habit.”
And when it comes to baby names? Bia is taking the lead.
She says: “I’m carrying the baby, I’m birthing the baby, so I get the final say on the name. End of discussion. Sorry, not sorry.”
Finally, Bia makes it clear she won’t “put up and shut up.”
Sometimes it takes a while for a man to get to the top
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She says: “If I’ve got something to say, you’re going to hear it.
“Actually, you’re going to listen, take it on board, and take action. I will never again go unheard.”
Though her rules are bold, Bia insists she’s a caring and loving partner.
“I know I might sound like a lot, but honestly, I’m a great girlfriend. My boyfriend – and probably even my exes – would back me up on that.”
Relationships in numbers: The most common way to meet someone
YouGov looked into how Brits find love, and your best bet is at work or through friends according to the data.
- Through work – 18%
- Through friends – 18%
- While out and about – 15%
- Other – 11%
- Online dating platform – 7%
- University or higher education – 6%
- Dating app – 6%
- School – 5%
- Shared hobby – 5%
- Family – 3%
- Face to face at an event – 0%
The internet has plenty to say about her list, as many rushed to the comments section to share her thoughts.
One commented: “The 50/50 thing makes no sense to me, so strange.”
To which Bia replied: “Strange to you not strange to me.”
A second added: “Take it as your single.”
But Bia commented back with: “Very much in a relationship lol.”
A third said: “Men already feel so pressured in life.
“Don’t you think that if you’re both young and starting out in life it isn’t fair to make a man pay all the bills sometimes it takes a while for a man to get to the top.”
And Bia replied with: “I get men feel pressure but so do women, I’m old fashioned and believe in traditional roles. Women have much more responsibility than men.”
Another added: “What guy will tolerate this type of being.”
And someone else said: “So your fella spends all his money on you and ends up with 0 then you get all your money to yourself.”
Signs your relationship is heading for a divorce
- Persistent Communication Breakdowns
Constant misunderstandings, arguments, or a complete lack of meaningful conversation can signal deep-seated issues. - Emotional Distance
Feeling like roommates rather than partners, with a noticeable lack of intimacy or emotional connection. - Frequent Criticism and Contempt
Regularly criticising each other and showing contempt, such as sarcasm, eye-rolling, or mocking, can erode the relationship’s foundation. - Unresolved Conflicts
Recurrent arguments about the same issues without any resolution can indicate deeper incompatibilities. - Loss of Trust
Trust is crucial in any relationship. If it’s been broken and cannot be rebuilt, it may be a sign that the relationship is in trouble. - Different Life Goals
Significant differences in future aspirations, such as career goals, lifestyle choices, or family planning, can create insurmountable divides. - Avoidance
Preferring to spend time apart rather than together, whether through work, hobbies, or social activities, can indicate a desire to escape the relationship. - Lack of Support
Feeling unsupported, whether emotionally, financially, or practically, can lead to feelings of isolation and resentment. - Financial Disagreements
Constantly arguing about money, spending habits, or financial priorities can strain the relationship. - Infidelity
Whether physical or emotional, infidelity can be a major breach of trust and a sign of deeper issues in the relationship. - Changes in Affection
A noticeable decrease in affection, physical touch, or romantic gestures can indicate a loss of connection.
But others agreed with Bia, as one commented: “Girl who knows her worth. Needs more empowering women like us sis.”
A second added: “Everyone hating clearly doesn’t have a real man.”
And a third simply said: “Agreed.”