I’m sleeping with my boss & giving him oral sex in the office – he’s married & says it’s harassment but he never says no
A YOUNG woman has revealed that she can’t stop sleeping with her boss and giving him oral sex in the office.
She claimed that her boss, who is much older than she, is married, and calls her sexual acts ‘harassment’, but never says no.
Keen to open up on the situation, the woman took to social media to reveal all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/confessions thread, the woman wrote under the username @randomgirl941 and titled her post ‘Hooking up with my boss’.
The anonymous woman then explained how her sexual relationship with her boss began, as she revealed: “I came here to confess so….I love my job, it’s a dream job.
“My boss was sort of a hero to me in college, and I never expected to get this job or work with him but I lucked into it really.
“I am in my late 20’s, he is in his mid 40’s, he is married, but that was not exactly clear to me at the time.
“It started really slowly, we don’t work directly together, but with the hours, and overtime he and I really began to hit it off.
“I was always excited to come to work, because I love it. I love the people and the environment and everything, but I became more and more excited just to see him.
“I noticed him putting us together on a few things, not so much that it affected our, or anyone else’s performance, but it did give us time together.”
Things soon spiralled after some alcohol at work, as she added: “One night, after a big day for the company, we stayed in the office, and had a few drinks and we talked, and one thing led to another and I went down on him.
“A few days later he pulled me into his office to have a talk. He told me it was a mistake, and that he was married, and it was harassment, and basically everything he could say as to why we could not do this.
“For some reason this triggered me. The right thing to do was to say yes sir and go back to work.
“I made things worse. I told him that I was upset for stepping on his marriage, but I was not 100% sure he even was married.
“He never talks about it, and is not even public with it. That’s not a cop out, I really didn’t know at the time.
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“I also pointed out that we were adults, and attracted to each other, and could do whatever we wanted. I said what we did wasn’t really a big deal, and that talking about it made it a bigger deal than it was.
“He basically just agreed with me and said as long as we were not going to make it a big deal it wouldn’t be one, and that was that.”
But just a week later, things happened again, as she continued: “It was a week or so before we started hanging out at work a lot like we used to. But, It was not long before we found ourselves alone again.
We went back to sneaking oral occasionally, we have had sex in the office a few times, during work hours
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“The same thing happened, and it kept happening. For a couple of months we found time alone together, and I would go down on him.
“He got more comfortable with me, and told me details about his marriage, intimate stuff. We never really talked about our sexy times, we just did it and let it be what it was, it was only oral and not a big deal anyway.”
And now, the woman has revealed that she can’t stop sleeping with her boss, as she admitted: “About three months ago we went on a business trip, not together..but together. We slept in the same bed, and we had sex several times a day.
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They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
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Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“It was the happiest and the worst time of my life. When we first got back we went back to sneaking oral occasionally, but we both broke down and have had sex in the office a few times, during work hours.
“We spent the night together in a hotel once locally too. He talks to me, and he says he wants to be with me and not his wife.
“But I am not naive enough to believe that, or maybe it’s just too much to hope for. He and his wife can’t have a great relationship because he is always working or with me and she has her own life.”
Being with someone you know is in a monogamous relationship is wrong, period
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Unsure on how to feel, she acknowledged: “I really like him, more than I can even explain.
“I feel awful about violating someone’s marriage, but I have also had a crush on this guy for so long and I never really came on to him, he was the one flirting with me mostly.
“I can’t enjoy being with him because he is married, but I can’t try and force him into doing anything either.
“I could use some advice honestly. I would really like someone to say I am not an awful person for doing this.”
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left stunned by the woman’s confession and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
Many slammed the woman for engaging in an affair and told her to leave her boss alone.
One person said: “This is wrong. You know he is married and you still downgrade yourself to the point of helping him to cheat.”
Another added: “I think you should leave him alone. If he gets a divorce, then maybe you can revisit your relationship, but be real, do you see him actually leaving her? He is having his cake and eating it too.”
A third commented: “Being with someone you know is in a monogamous relationship is wrong, period.”