Please Don't Use ChatGPT to Buy My Gift This Year
In an era where artificial intelligence can generate gift recommendations with claims of algorithmic precision, we're at risk of losing something far more valuable than perfectly matched presents: genuine human connection. The art of gift-giving isn't about finding the most objectively impressive item, but about communicating love, understanding, and personal investment.
Sure, ChatGPT can rapidly generate gift lists based on demographics, trending items, and surface-level interests. But a truly meaningful gift transcends data points—which, besides, can be far from foolproof. A good gift should say, "I see you. I know you. I've been paying attention." An AI can suggest a bestselling cookbook for someone who likes cooking, but it can't capture the nuanced memory of that time your friend mentioned her grandmother's specific pie recipe or the way her eyes lit up discussing a culinary technique. Instead of using AI, let's tackle some practical strategies for thoughtful gift-giving.
How to give a thoughtful gift
The task of capturing a unique understanding of the gift recipient's inner world is daunting, to say the least. Even if you can't find the perfect story or connection behind the gift, there are ways to convey at least a little human effort and intentionality.
Do a memory dive
Reflect on conversations you've had with the recipient over the past year. What stories did they tell? What challenges did they overcome? What moments made them laugh or feel vulnerable?
Some more tips for researching your friend: Review old text messages and emails, or even look through social media posts. And of course, don't be afraid to ask their close friends or family for insights. When word gets back to them that you put in so much effort, they'll surely be touched—specifically, touched in a way AI could never do.
Research their interests
Go beyond surface-level hobbies. If someone loves art, don't just buy art supplies. A good rule is to remember that people usually buy what they need for their hobbies. So, it's important to find something they wouldn't get themselves. In this artist example, consider:
A painting class they can take with a friend
Museum tickets
A book about an artist they like
Throw in a handwritten note explaining why you selected this specific item. Again: Since it's the thought that counts, it helps to always explain your thinking.
Do a mind map
If you ever need to come up with an idea for work, a mind map is your best friend. Create a gift "mind map" that connects:
Their interests
Shared memories
Inside jokes
Aspirational goals
Nostalgia
The bottom line: Gift-giving isn't about perfection
If you still want to get robotic with it, think of gift-giving as an equation:
Thoughtfulness > Monetary Value
A $10 item selected with profound understanding will always outweigh a $100 item selected by an algorithm. Go for handmade items, curated experience gifts, or something that references specific shared memories.
So if any of my loved ones are reading this, please: Put down the AI prompt. Pick up a notebook. Reflect. Remember. Connect. (New running sneakers, size 8.)
Gift-giving isn't about perfection. It's about presence. Your imperfect, human-generated gift will always be more perfect than any robot-recommended present.