I’ve been having incredible secret sex with my uncle – I know what we’re doing is wrong but we’re head over heels

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M in a secret, passionate relationship with my uncle.

I know what we’re doing is wrong and will lead to fireworks, but we are head-over-heels in love.

I’m 24 and my uncle, who is my dad’s younger brother, is 29.

I have feelings for him that I know I shouldn’t have.

Our relationship intensified after I’d finished my A levels and I was certain I’d done badly.

I had a massive row with my best friend and then my mum was diagnosed with MS.

It felt like the end of the world.

My uncle popped round one day to help my dad install a new shower.

He could see how upset I was and was kind.

He gave me a hug and a little kiss.

It cheered me up because I’d always secretly liked him.

He was 23 at the time and about to begin an apprenticeship to become an electrician.

We ended up spending a lot of that summer together.

Nothing sexual happened between us.

I then didn’t see him for three years until he came back to our town and we met up at a family barbecue.

We quietly arranged to meet for a drink a week later and I ended up going back to his for the most incredible sex.

We had strong feelings for each other and had sex whenever we could.

We kept it completely secret.

We started spending time together and are now in a proper relationship, although nobody knows.

My uncle has now got a job in France for two years.

I’d love to go with him but I’ve just landed my dream job in marketing.

We are completely smitten and we’ve promised that we will be together one day.

Should I just move out there with him?

DEIDRE SAYS: This job move is an opportunity for you to realise there is no future together no matter how good the sex is.

If you were found out, the repercussions could be devastating.

You are both breaking the law by having an incestuous relationship and this could ruin your life.

You were young and impressionable and he was older than you.

The longer this continues, the more attached you will become.

He is now working in France, giving you an ideal opportunity to finish your relationship.

Begin to rebuild your life.

You’ve just landed a great job and the future is yours.