I want to invoice the parents who missed my child’s soft play birthday party – people say it’s petty but I’m £51 down
A MUM has been trolled for being “petty” after wanting to invoice the parents who missed her child’s soft play birthday party.
She revealed that she is now £51 down because of it and thinks she is entitled to the money back.
However, other mums don’t agree and have said that she is being unreasonable because of it.
Taking to online forum Mumsnet, the parent remained anonymous when she asked other users for their thoughts.
The mum titled it: “No shows at birthday party.”
She then continued to write: “It was my child’s birthday party and I paid £20 per child at a local play centre.
“Two siblings responded that they would go but did not turn up – the parents were apologetic but said they had forgotten and wouldn’t make it on time for any of the party.
“One of the siblings had a dietary requirement and I paid an extra £11 for different food for them.”
The mum asked other users of the online forum if she was being “unreasonable” to ask that the parent reimburse her for the cost.
She continued to write: “If you were going to do this, how would you word it?
“It was my choice to have an expensive party so maybe I should just leave it.
“What would you do?”
The post gained a lot of attention, but many strongly disagreed with her, whilst 74 per cent voted and said she was being unreasonable.
One mum wrote: “Don’t bother having parties again.
“More hassle than it’s worth. Choose a few children who you know will come and take them out somewhere.”
Another added: “No, they’re not responsible for your choices.”
Whilst someone else said: “I would just take it on the chin and not invite them again.”
Others sympathised with her but still agreed that she shouldn’t ask for the money back.
Well, you were expecting to pay £51 either way, so at least it’s not going to cost you any more
Mumsnet user
One wrote: “It’s dreadful manners but you can’t ask for reimbursement that’s an utter cringe.
“Like f**k would I ever invite that family to anything ever again though.”
A second wrote: “Well, you were expecting to pay £51 either way, so at least it’s not going to cost you any more.
“Were you able to consume the food they should have had?
“Also, do you think the parents knew how much it was costing?
“I think it’s pretty poor form on their part (although things do get forgotten), but to ask for the money would trump that and then some.”
Should you invite the whole class to your child's birthday?
School mums are facing a new dilemma when it comes to their children’s birthday parties.
According to a recent discussion, inviting the entire class to a birthday party has become a contentious issue.
Some mums argue that it’s the polite thing to do, ensuring no child feels left out.
However, others believe that inviting the whole class can be overwhelming and unnecessary, especially if your child isn’t close to everyone.
Here are some tips to navigate this tricky situation:
- Set Clear Boundaries: Decide on a reasonable number of guests and stick to it.
- Invite Close Friends: Focus on inviting your child’s closest friends to keep the party manageable and meaningful.
- Consider a Small Gathering: Opt for a smaller, more intimate celebration if a large party isn’t feasible.
- Communicate with Other Parents: Have an open conversation with other parents to understand their views and preferences.
- Alternative Celebrations: Consider alternative ways to celebrate, such as a special day out with just a few friends.