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Led by relationship expert and Agony Aunt Sally Land, the team of trained counsellors answer every single request.

From dating challenges to friendship meltdowns, sexual problems and messy family breakups, each request receives careful consideration and attention.

This incredible service is completely free and where readers ask, or need, they can expect ongoing support from our therapists. 

Sally is The Sun’s Agony Aunt, a trained counsellor, trustee for the charity Family Lives, a relationship and parenting expert. She is a regular voice on radio and is often invited to speak on various panel events.

Sally and her team help between 60-90 people each week and the service has been going for over 45 years.

Sally took over as The Sun’s Agony Aunt when Deidre Sanders retired from the The Dear Deidre column four years ago.

Kate Taylor is a sex and dating writer and is also training as a counsellor. Kate is an advisor for dating website OurTime and is the author of 5 self-help books.

Jane Allton has been a Dear Deidre counsellor for over twenty years. A trained therapist, as well as covering all issues, Jane has specialised in family issues.

Catherine Thomas started on the team at the same time as Jane, also a trained therapist, Catherine has specialised in consumer and relationship issues.

Sally says: “I’m very proud of the service we provide. The team go above and beyond to help readers who write in and we have a bulging thank you folder, full of messages from those we have helped.

“Sometimes people are simply looking for a different perspective on a friendship fall-out, other times their sex life is failing and their whole relationship is at risk.

“Other examples of a cry for help are more serious, involving abuse, violence and even child neglect.

“Whatever the issue we always make sure we reply with a supportive, compassionate, well informed and useful response. We work closely with several charities including Women’s Aid, Family Lives and the NSPCC to ensure readers are getting the best advice.”

We aim to answer each message within one working day. 

Some letters are selected for publication, but only ever after identifying details are changed. 

Those stories in turn inform, entertain and educate a wider readership.

After all, who isn’t interested in learning how to be a better dad, wife, friend or lover.

Any readers who request that their issue is not published, can rest assured our exchanges remain strictly private.

How to Get in Touch with Dear Deidre:

• Send Your Problem by Email: Write to deardeidre@thesun.co.uk with your issue. Sally and her counsellors read every email and will reply with their expert advice.
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• By mail: You can write to Dear Deidre, The Sun, 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF.
• Complete Our Online Form: Need advice fast? Head to our Dear Deidre page to fill out our quick and easy form. Deidre’s team will get back to you soon.

Here’s why Dear Deidre is an iconic Agony Aunt column:

• We answer EVERY email, message, or letter.
• A trained counsellor personally answers every piece of correspondence.
• We’ll keep in touch for as long as you need our support.
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