I cheated on my wife of 12 years with my 19-year-old intern – I think it SAVED my marriage but people say I’m delusional
A MAN revealed how he thinks his affair helped to improve his marriage.
After revealing he had sex with another woman, one husband noticed a change in his wife’s behaviour, which he said was for the better.
In a Reddit post, the unnamed man detailed his infidelity, which he says helped his marriage in the long-run.
He revealed that he has been with his wife for a total of 12 years, describing her as “the most beautiful and perfect girl I’ve ever met.”
“There was nothing ever wrong with our marriage, she was the ideal wife,” the Reddit user wrote.
However, his loyalties were tested when a 19-year-old intern started working at his family’s company.
The married man described the young woman as “stunning,” saying she was “the kind of pretty that flaunts it.”
He explained how she gave him attention in the office, leading to inappropriate interactions.
“It began with her flirting with me for a bit, light touching, laughing at my lame jokes,” he recalled.
“It slowly progressed to lunch dates to texting till I eventually slept with her during a company outing.”
After cheating on his wife, the man said he felt so bad he returned home immediately and confessed.
He offered his wife a divorce and “anything she wanted” including their cars, house, and alimony.
“She said that was the last thing she wanted [and] she knows it was a one time thing and that I wouldn’t do it again,” he explained.
The man described how a year after the incident, their relationship has been “different.”
While he said he has been trying to make it up to her in every way, he also acknowledged the change in his wife’s behaviour.
“She’s been going the extra mile herself, she’s always been a loving and loyal wife but I think she’s been a bit extra,” he said.
“She’s been cooking more often, visiting me at work for lunch more, been more conscious about her looks [with the] gym and make-up.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
The Reddit user said his wife never brought up his infidelity, saying “it was as if nothing ever happened.”
“It feels like we’re back in the honeymoon stage with all the attention I’ve been getting,” he wrote.
He even explained how his wife left a hen do early because there were male strippers in attendance.
“I’ve been really happy lately but there’s still a small part of me that whispers ‘you don’t deserve her,'” he said.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“My man, the relationship did not improve in anyway. Don’t try to justify your cheating,” wrote one reader.
“You destroyed her confidence, she is not doing that for you. She is doing all that because she is constantly afraid that you’ll cheat again.”
“She’s only taking better care of herself and worrying more [about] her looks not for herself but because of you,” agreed another person.
“She’s doing all that because she believes if she doesn’t you’ll just go after another young chick.”
“Nice job. Now your wife will never feel secure about herself or comfortable around you, ever again. You’ve destroyed her,” commented a third Redditor.