‘Nope! Return it now!’ people yell as wedding guest shows off her ‘cheap’ black tie fit, others mistake it for underwear
A WEDDING guest caused a stir online after posting the outfit she planned to wear.
The woman modeled the divisive style for her followers, who compared the look to underwear.
In her viral video, TikTok user Sadie (@s.s.training) explained her dilemma over what to wear to her boyfriend’s brother’s wedding.
She revealed that she was still waiting on her other options to arrive but only had four days to return her current choice.
Sadie stood back to give her audience a full-length look at her current outfit.
The two-piece look featured a black crop top with spaghetti straps that she described as looking “really cheap.”
“This is my first option, I feel like it looks really cheap, the straps are just cheap, the fabric feels cheap,” Sadie said.
Her fitted skirt reached her ankles, where it flared out slightly to create a mermaid style.
The skirt also had a black lacey detail at the waist, which partially covered Sadie’s exposed midriff.
“Is this even considered black tie? Should I even keep this as an option?” she asked.
Her followers shared their thoughts on the two-piece look in the comments section.
“Nope! Return! For black tie, think prom dress, formal evening gown,” wrote one viewer.
“I thought this was the under slip, like the layer you wear underneath the dress. Please Google black tie dress code, it’s super formal,” said another TikTok user.
“No separates, belly showing, or spaghetti straps for black tie,” advised a third person.
“Absolutely return. I thought you were wearing a slip to get ready to show us the real dress,” wrote another commenter.
“I feel like you just heard black and not black tie,” pointed out one follower.
“DEFINITELY a NO for a black tie wedding. But a YES for a New Year’s Eve outfit or similar event with a sequined blazer,” suggested another person.
Dos and don’ts of wedding dress codes
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy editor and bride-to-be.
Josie Griffiths said: I’ll never forget the wedding I went to in October 2022 where a guest wore a white dress.
It was ill-fitting, knee length and looked nothing like an actual wedding dress, but that didn’t stop everyone judging her.
The rules on wedding guest outfits – which are annoyingly loads stricter for women than they are for men – are meant to be about “not upstaging the bride”, which in reality is quite hard to do on someone else’s wedding day.
But if you get it wrong as a guest, you do end up looking a bit silly, and in front of loads of people who don’t know you personally.
It’s just not the occasion for your new white dress, as much as online stores love dumping them in the ‘wedding guest’ section.
I’d avoid anything too tight/short, and ditch super formal gowns unless the dress code calls for them – you don’t want to be in a full length sequin gown at a smart casual event.
Personally I don’t like black dresses either, it isn’t a funeral.
Otherwise you should be pretty safe. Technically wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would scoff at nowadays.
I do always check what colour the bridesmaids are in, just to be safe, after the Spanish wedding where I watched them walk down the aisle in the exact same dress I’d had in my Asos shopping basket just weeks earlier.
If in doubt, safest to just double check with the bride… but if you’re already doubting your dress that might be all the answer you need.
“Nope, although it goes all the way down it’s more of a cocktail party dress. Generally black tie dresses have longer sleeves,” wrote one viewer.
“That can’t even be a backup option,” said another TikTok user.
“This is a complete opposite of black tie. A definite RETURN,” commented one follower.
“I’m going to a black tie wedding too and I’ve done so much research since I myself have never been to one. And this is a big no-no,” wrote another commenter.
“Friend, if it shows your middle it’s probably not black tie,” pointed out one viewer.