Journalist David Brooks reveals the essential questions to deepen any relationship 

NYT writer and commentator David Brooks on how to ask questions that inspire storytelling, promote understanding, and sustain connection in conflict.

In David Brooks’ latest book—How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen—he writes: “In how you see me, I will learn to see myself.”  When I asked who illustrated this in his own life, he shared a story about his grandfather. “Whenever I showed him my writing, as early as first grade, he would respond very positively. He saw me growing up to become a writer,” Brooks reflects. “He wrote letters to the editor of The New York Times almost every day and occasionally would get a letter published. After I got my job at The New York Times, I wished I could have called him and said: Wow, I got a job at the place he always dreamed of.”