‘Tacky, tacky, tacky’ bride and groom brutally slammed over ‘rejection’ cards they posted to their family
MANY of us have received a wedding invitation – but what about a rejection card?
This is exactly what happened to one family after their cousin decided to keep the guest list quite short due to budget constraints.
One member of the brood took to Reddit to share the rather bizarre situation when some members of the family were sent a ”rejection” letter.
The couple, who were having a a small, semi-destination wedding, sent cards to people that hadn’t made it to the guest lists, saying “You are in our hearts on this special day.”
The baffled Redditor – who had been invited – was lost for words, writing: “Their excuse is for the sake of ‘curiosity and thinking of them.’
”But what I don’t understand is why send this BEFORE the wedding. It would make more sense AFTER and send it out to them.”
The person also revealed the cousins were expecting guests to have “a role to help set up.”
Those attending the romantic ceremony would be expected to help set up tables for the reception while the bride and groom get their loved-up snaps taken.
“My reply was ‘You’re TELLING people who drove 5 hours to your wedding, spent their gas and hotel money, to set up for your wedding?’ And their response is ‘Yea.’”
According to the author behind the post, the pair said they couldn’t afford to hire people to set up the reception.
The Reddit user added that the two have been travelling quite a lot recently instead of saving money for their big day.
Unfortunately for the couple, the response in the comments was brutal as people flocked to shame them.
Referencing South Park, one person said: “The cards to the non-invited guests has big Eric Cartman energy. ‘Look at this amazing wedding, it’s in a garden with plants and trees.
”And the best part is, YOU CAN’T COME. Especially Stan and Kyle.’”
Another joked: “I am always looking for excuses not to go to a wedding, and this one would be a jackpot.”
One chimed in saying it’s normal to send a wedding announcement to those who weren’t invited, just letting them know the wedding took place.
Those are normally sent after the wedding, however.
One commenter simply said: “Tacky, tacky, tacky!”
When is it tacky to ask for money for your wedding - and how can I ask without offending people?
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy digital editor and bride-to-be
Josie Griffiths said: “As someone who lives in an already cluttered 38 square metre flat, gifts aren’t exactly at the top of the list for our wedding day in August.
“All we want is money towards our honeymoon – and we’re already expecting backlash from the older generations, but what can you do?
“I would love an air fryer or coffee machine for the kitchen, but we simply don’t have the space.
“I think there’s a few keys when asking for cash to stop it looking tacky – which this bride has very much got wrong.
“One – the money is for our honeymoon, not to cover the cost of the wedding, we are absolutely paying for that ourselves.
“Two – like any gift, it’s totally optional, and people can decide what they’re comfortable spending themselves. When I went to a wedding abroad in my mid-20s, I didn’t contribute to their honeymoon fund and I still feel comfortable with my decision, the trip to Spain already cost me and my partner a lot.
“Under no circumstances should you ever invoice people for a specific amount. You might have relatives who are more generous than expected, which would of course be lovely, but your guests are just that and they shouldn’t have to pay for the food, decorations and entertainment you’ve chosen.
“Three – make it look and feel like a registry – there are some great websites where guests can donate cash for cocktails, room upgrades and experiences abroad, which make it feel a lot more personal than a bank account number and sort code. People like to know where their money’s going and then you can send proper thank yous with pics of you enjoying whatever they’ve paid towards.
“As for how to ask, some people do poems but personally I hate them, they sound childish and you wouldn’t knock one up to ask your mate to transfer you £100 towards your trip away, so it sounds odd here.
“Something like this, on your formal invite or wedding website, would be perfect: The most important thing to us is that you are able to celebrate with us on our wedding day. However, if you wish to give a gift, we will gratefully accept a small contribution towards our honeymoon.
“Good luck!”
This comes after one couple were slammed over their ”cash grab” invite which people said they’d decline over a small detail.
”The black tie event of the fall is an adults only reception, there will be an open bar with ‘his and her’ batched drinks and selection of beer and wine,” the text message read.
Determined to keep the costs down, the pair also revealed that the guests shouldn’t expect any food, apart from a few snacks.
However, they did urge the attendees to fuel up beforehand and check out the numerous dining spots in the neighbourhood.
”We will be providing light snacks only, this will provide you and your guest with the perfect opportunity to do an elegant evening dinner in our beautiful downtown with endless options before attending the wedding.”