Control your actions by doing this one thing in the moment

We can’t control our feelings. But we can control our actions. By taking responsibility for our behavior, we can bring our attitudes and emotions into line. 

Scenario number one: You’re walking across your front lawn when you hear the clatter of falling objects. You turn to see your neighbor, whose bag of groceries has just split open, watching mournfully as oranges and soup cans roll away in all directions. You take a step forward to offer your help, then remember how the night before she ignored your request to turn down the music at her pool party.