What are the best sex positions for older people?

GETTING older might make things in the bedroom a little trickier but that certainly doesn’t have to mean giving up on sex all together.

Here we take a look at the best sex positions for older people including how you can still do some all-time favourites like doggy style and missionary.

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Spooning

Sex experts across the world frequently describe spooning as the best position for the elderly.

It can be easily done on your bed meaning comfort can stay a priority and very little movement is required.

But, also because it has both lovers in a natural position laying down meaning it doesn’t place any added pressure on your joints and muscles.

Sexpert Kayla Lords said: “One of the best sex positions for ageing is anything that takes weight and pressure off the joints.”

This position consists of two people snuggling up as close as possible while both facing in the same direction.

It is a beloved position for people of all ages for how simple yet effective it can be.

As an added bonus, you can place pillows beneath you to make sure you’re fully supported.

Missionary

This classic sex position is a great edition to any steamy evening for people of all ages.

For the elderly, a few adjustments will make it a little more accessible and a whole lot more fun and intimate.

Traditionally, missionary sees the male partner on top of their partner who is laying flat on the bed underneath them.

This puts the person on top in control meaning they can set the pace and help their lover out.

This is especially useful if one of you is a little more active than the other.

If you’re still struggling to get what you want out of normal missionary there is also an alternative – assisted missionary.

Both partners take up a similar position to usual but the person on the bottom can pop a pillow under their pelvis to raise them up a little higher.

This is the perfect variation for anyone who suffers from back pain, or any other aching muscles and can help the man stay in a more natural line of movement.

Doggy style

Ever popular doggy style sees the penetrating partner go behind the receiver who is typically on their knees.

It is such a good position for the elderly as it can be adapted in a number of ways to perfectly suit both of the lovers.

Many of the positions can lessen the pressure on joints and also vary on the flexibility needed to perform it.

Like in missionary, you can add a pillow under the hips of the receiver for more comfort and support.

You can also adapt the position of the receiver so they are in a kneeling position that is the most comfortable.

Or try standing doggy which is regarded as easier for many.

This makes it easier for both partners to maintain balance and engage in different forms of physical contact.

It can lead to a good night’s sleep, and is unlikely to lead to UTIs – as well as allowing for deep penetration and different angles.

Like with most things in the bedroom, trial and error is often required in order to find what works best for you and your partner.

As doggy style is actually the sex position most likely to cause injuries, with 54 per cent of Brits admitting to having harmed themselves in this position. 

The most important thing to do is just make sure you communicate with your partner so that everyone is on the same page and enjoying themselves.

Cowgirl

One sex position that never goes out of style is the cowgirl.

In cowgirl, the penetrating partner lies on their back while the other person faces them and straddles them on top.

You can also practice this position in a way that provides more support.

Give yourself extra stability by resting your hands on the legs of your partner as they lie underneath you.

The penetrating partner can also lift their knees to effectively create a ‘seat’ for the receiving partner, or hold on to their lower back to support their movements.

Similarly, here we explain a variation on this position – the reverse cowgirl.

But men beware as reverse cowgirl is seen as the most threatening position for penises.

It has caused more than one in five sore penis experiences and a quarter of broken or fractured penises according to a study by Superdrug.

There are several alternatives to cowgirl such as the cowboy sex position or the cowgirl’s helper.

Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl burn many calories for women, 139 and 137, respectively.

According to The Cut, you can try squatting above your partner to bring the caloric rate up to 172 per half hour.

But they don’t reach the same levels as men; with them putting in less effort in these positions, they’ll only be losing 48 calories.

Side-by-side

The side-by-side sex position is simply a variation of the spooning position – except you’re facing each other.

This position allows time to rest on your side without any added pressure.

It is great for comfort and intimacy making it a must try.

Sit and straddle

As the name suggests, the sit and straddle is a seated sex position.

For this position, the giving partner stays seated in a chair, and the receiving partner straddles their lap.

This is a great position to try as it requires very little movement while providing extra intimacy with your partner.

For extra support use pillows.