Why doesn’t the love of my life want to be in a relationship with me?
DEAR DEIDRE: I truly believe I’m meant to be with a man I met through social media.
But he says he isn’t ready for a relationship. Should I wait for him?
I’m a 27-year-old guy, and he’s 29. We’ve known each other for a year and my feelings for him have grown intensely.
When we met on a gay dating site, he explained that despite being ‘out’ for a few years, he hadn’t explored his bisexuality.
I told him I wanted to get to know him better, and we spent the next couple of weeks chatting every day.
We then went out for drinks. The time flew by and I could tell we enjoyed each other’s company.
But the next morning, he messaged to say he was no longer sure this was what he truly wanted.
He said we should remain friends. While I agreed, it’s not what I want.
I’ve really fallen for him. I believe he just needs time to accept and come to terms with who he is.
Is it unhealthy for me to wait till he’s ready?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t make someone else feel what you do.
He may not be sure of his sexuality or it may be an excuse.
Either way, you could be waiting a very long time, and miss out on other opportunities.
You need to accept that friendship is all that is on offer.
Set a time limit on how long you’re willing to wait. In the meantime, be open to new people too.
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