Anxious husband blames me for his sex and erection problems
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband blames me for our boring sex life.
We’re both in our early sixties and have been married for 30 years.
We’ve always had an active sex life until recently, when I began suffering from vaginal dryness.
I went on HRT, and things got back on track until my husband lost his erection and couldn’t get it back.
He says it is my fault because he’s now anxious about my previous issue.
I’m able to bring myself to an orgasm, but I miss our intimacy.
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I’m lucky if I get a kiss goodnight as most nights I get into bed and he simply turns away.
I love him. What can I do?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: It does sound like your husband’s anxiety is causing this issue.
Let him know that blaming you isn’t helping and see if you can have a supportive conversation.
This will also reassure him. It’s also important that he visits his GP to rule out any underlying medical conditions.
My support pack Erection Problems explains more about why he may be struggling.