I am terrified of my ex-wife’s abusive family – I just want to move on
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM terrified of my ex-wife’s family, who have verbally abused me and my new partner in public.
I’ve been with my new girlfriend for nearly six months. I left my wife just under a year ago.
Cheating isn’t my style but I was with my wife when I met my new partner.
As soon as I realised our marriage wasn’t salvageable, I left.
My ex and I are both in our forties and had been married since we were 21 but we hadn’t been happy for years.
No matter what we did to try to fix things, nothing worked.
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I never wanted to leave but when I met my girlfriend it became apparent it was for the best.
We met at work and we just clicked. She is beautiful, makes me laugh and I’ve never felt more in love.
My wife quickly suspected I was attracted to her and constantly accused me of cheating with her, which wasn’t true.
But now that we are in a relationship, I’m terrified of the consequences.
My wife recently discovered we’re together and started sending me abusive texts calling me a liar and a cheat.
It’s still ongoing and she has even been stalking me online as she will reference my social media posts in texts.
Although I keep blocking the accounts she sets up, she always finds a way to access my profile.
Her family are pretty wild and a couple of them have been in trouble with the police.
Now that she’s bad mouthing me and my girlfriend, I’m worried about what they are capable of.
Some of them have started yelling at me whenever they see me in the street.
I have tried to handle the ending of my marriage in the best way possible, but I’m worried this will affect my relationship with my girlfriend. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your ex-partner is understandably upset that you have started a new relationship so soon after leaving her.
However, this in no way excuses her abusive behaviour, or that of her family.
Make sure you are recording all incidents as you might need them as evidence.
And please get advice and help from the National Stalking Helpline (suzylamplugh.org, 0808 802 0300).
This organisation is for anyone being harassed or feeling intimidated by another person’s behaviour.
They help people who are unsure of what can be done concerning someone’s behaviour but do not want to go to the police.