My sister yelled at me for wearing ‘white’ to her wedding but my 6’8″ boyfriend really set her off, her husband is 5’9″
ONE bride’s sister has shared how she found herself being berated for the color of her dress.
Not even her boyfriend was spared from the bride’s wedding day wrath.
LIGHTEN UP
Redditor Swamp_mouse explained in a post that she had been selected to be her sister’s maid of honor and played an instrumental role in the planning process.
She said all of the bridesmaids were allowed to select their own dresses, but the bride had one strict rule.
They all had to stick to her “theme” and wear light yellow.
She, however, was not entitled to have any say over her style.
“I wasn’t allowed to pick my dress, because she already chose a sleeveless pale yellow knee-length dress for me,” she said.
“Well, the dress came in and it was a little lighter than on the website, but that’s to be expected.”
She wasn’t worried at the time and neither was her sister, who “loved it,” after being shown a picture.
Things took a downturn, however, on the day of the wedding when she showed up with her 6’8″ boyfriend whom her sister had never met before.
“As soon as my sister saw us, she freaked out and started yelling about how I wore white – the lights were very bright and made the dress look white,” she said.
And she didn’t stop there.
HEIGHT OR MISS
“She yelled at them for about 10 minutes before moving on to yell about how my boyfriend was taller than her fiancée, who’s 5’9″, so we drew the attention off of them,” she said.
To make matters worse, she had previously explained that her partner was “insecure” about his height and had even requested that she not mention anything about his appearance.
Rather than take the insults, she stood her ground, but her family thinks she’s the one who needs to apologize.
Still, most people thought the bride was the one to blame.
BLAME GAME
“She chose the dress. The fact that it looked white under the lights at the venue is one of those things that no one could anticipate and certainly is not your fault,” wrote one user.
“Also, yelling at you for your boyfriend’s height is immature and stupid. He can’t help his height,” they continued.
“This strikes me as a sign of some insecurity about the groom’s height either on the bride’s or groom’s side.
“In any case, it is literally something he can’t control and to yell at him about it does nothing but make the bride look stark raving mad.
“As far as you arguing back, I can’t judge. I don’t know what was said. I think your defending your boyfriend is certainly called for.”
“First of all, her bringing height into the situation is strange and might have made her fiance/husband uncomfortable because why does it matter if your boyfriend is taller?” said one Redditor.
“Especially if he’s self-conscious about it. And she approved the dress. You have every right to stand up for yourself. She decided to make a scene at her wedding.
“You are not there to be walked on. She picked the dress. So tell her to go look at a mirror and argue with herself because that’s her own fault.”
“I would just like to mention, I told them beforehand – about a month before the wedding – that my boyfriend was taller than the groom,” she replied.
“I never gave his exact height because when I told her I didn’t know how tall he was, but they were fine with him being taller than the groom.”
She also gave some further background on the big day.
PICTURE TIME
Her boyfriend, who was by far the tallest person at the affair, would be featured in almost every photograph.
“In my family, it’s tradition for someone’s partner – if you and the partner had been dating for at least a year and had plans to be married eventually – to be in most pictures with them,” she said.
She also wanted to clarify the dress disaster.
“The dress did match the rest of the bridesmaid’s dresses, the color matched directly on the website,” she said.
Her gown wasn’t purchased in a store like the rest of the dresses, and she never read the reviews, many of which stated that the item was indeed “lighter than it should have been.”
Bridal stylist Gabrielle Hurwitz spoke to Martha Stewart about wedding etiquette.
Aside from not wearing white, she also advises to be “extra safe” by avoiding cream and ivory.
She recommends taking photographs of your clothing and viewing pieces in various lighting setups to determine how it “reads on camera.”